I can't stop talking, or thinking about the new show This is Us. I don't know what the season holds, or if it will end up taking the place in my heart held by my all time favorite show Friday Night Lights (Tami Taylor is my spirit animal), but if anything it has by far the most beautifully written scene I have ever watched. It should be required viewing for every OB, every parent who has faced loss, and really every person that breathes oxygen.
When we lost Joy, our OB lacked the skills, experience, and empathy to offer any comfort. It is a deeply painful part of our story. When faced with the most tragic moment of our young lives, we were met with cold, clinical words as she swiftly left the room, and handed us off to a doctor we had never met. I would like to believe that there are many doctors out there who have been profoundly changed and shaped by tragedy, and have found strength and redemption from it. I feel like Dr. Katowsky was speaking directly to me. Saying the words that I wish I could have heard all those years ago. Words that are strong and hopeful and true. Words that echo each time I share what I have learned about loss and change and how we became different people that dark January day. People that brought our daughter home from the hospital, just not in the way we had hoped.
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