Two kids focused on silly things like guest lists and registering for plates.
Basically planning our wedding, (a.k.a. an epic four hour party complete with In-N-Out.)
Not really thinking about planning our FOREVER.
Our pastor did his best to prepare us. I just don't think we really, REALLY, listened. How could you when you are young and dumb and super excited for your honeymoon and new house?
Life doesn't prepare you for life.
Thankfully we were serious about this FOREVER thing. Even if we didn't know how we would get there.
Or that it would involve work.
Lots and lots of work.
Which, when you think about it, is ridiculous. To be good at anything, you need put in time, effort, commitment, dedication, and hard work.
This marriage thing? It's the best kind of work.
As we march toward our fifteenth anniversary, I can truly, honestly say that I both LOVE and LIKE Jason so much more than I ever thought I could when I was that giddy girl in a white dress promising him forever. This past year has grown us in ways we were wholly unprepared for. Through the chaos that is our million little children, finances, transitions, facing the unknown, and now a job change, we have made a choice to invest in each other.
Invest in doing the hard work.
Little getaways. Date days.
Praying for each other. Loving each other. Serving each other.
When it is easy. When it is hard.
Those plates that we registered for? They came crashing down.
That four hour party? It was amazing.
It doesn't compare with what we have now.
(Even though the dumb Civil Wars broke up, the lyrics are still true.)
Some good books to help you do the hard work: