Thursday, October 25, 2012

Play.

You know those things that you used to do all the time, but then life and change got in the way?  Those things that you really, really miss, but your current circumstances just don't really leave room for?
Surfing is one of those things.  We used to go all the time.  Then we had all those cute little ones that require a bit of watching while we are at the beach. Throw in my insane shark phobia that keeps me from going out in the water without Jason right beside me.

My surfboard collected dust.  It saw the light of day for Shane's one year pictures, but that's it.  So sad right?  That very day I decided that 2012 would be the year that I would get back out in the ocean.

Shortly after, I finished reading the book For Women Only (totally recommend it). There is a whole chapter on how couples need to play together.  I don't know how to golf, I'm horrible at frisbee, card games make me crazy, and I'm way past my snowboarding years.  Never has there been a better time to revisit surfing.

We snuck away for a night last month for our anniversary, and you would not believe surprise and delight when I told Jason that he needed to pack two surfboards.  What was a much needed getaway, turned into the most fun, refreshing, silly, twenty four hours in recent memory.  The waves were perfect.  The water was warm.  I got pitched time and time again from my board,  got tangled in my leash, inhaled saltwater, and finally, victoriously, caught a few waves.

It wasn't about the surfing.  It was about us, our time together, floating on our boards, just like it used to be.  Just like it still should be.  If only for a day here and there.

You're never to old to play.  Nor are you too old to learn how to surf.  You can be a mom and still do cool things.

What fun, silly, activity could you and your husband go do?  I dare you to try it.  You won't regret it.

17 comments:

  1. Hubby and I took a ballroom dancing lesson last week. : ) A silly, fun good time! How awesome that you can surf! I'm from San Diego, but never learned. I was afraid of a board hitting me on the head : )and stuck to boogie boarding.

    ReplyDelete
  2. p.s. -We went on a shark dissecting field trip yesterday and learned that you are more likely to be killed by a vending machine falling over than by a shark attack. (I'm not sure I believe it!) ; )

    ReplyDelete
  3. Oh my GOODNESS!!! I have the same shark phobia! I don't know what happened to me...I lived in the ocean growing up. Kayaking is my favorite pastime ever, but outside those harbor gates await the great white sharks and its just too too scary! But the harbor is really boring and Jer won't go unless its in the waves. I wish there were shark scouts that would check the water constantly with some sort of shark goggles and let us know if it was safe. I think you've challenged me to get over it!

    ReplyDelete
  4. it is scotty's favorite thing when i make snacks for the football games on the weekends and watch with him.

    i think you are the bomb for surfing.

    ReplyDelete
  5. Love this! My husband and I don't have kids yet, but with everyday business in our lives, I feel like we could really benefit from this! So awesome that you reconnected to your board... I bet it just felt good for your soul.

    ReplyDelete
  6. i love this. so, so true. couples need to play together. my husband and i used to go to a lot of concerts, shows, movies, etc. and now we don't do any of that at all. we are slowly getting back to that as time and finances allow. it's refreshing.

    ReplyDelete
  7. Thank you for reminding me how important "us" time is. :) I love that you value that and share it with all your readers...so encouraging!

    ReplyDelete
  8. We make Thursday night our date night. When the kids are in bed, the DVR comes on and we laugh together at the hilariousness that is Parks & Rec. And say to each other how much better The Office used to be when we had to rush home to watch it eight years ago because we didn't have DVR. Kind of lame compared to the awesomeness that is surfing!

    When we can find babysitters maybe we will take up something more exciting:)

    Jessie

    ReplyDelete
  9. I loved reading this post! You've inspired me to find something fun to reconnect with my Hubs. Thank you for sharing this! :)

    ReplyDelete
  10. love the pic.

    and that is a good book, kicked my tail, good.

    happy weekend, friend. hope you get rain.

    ReplyDelete
  11. love the pic.

    that's a great book...kicked my tail, great.

    happy weekend, friend. hope you get rain.

    ReplyDelete
  12. I love this!
    You are so right there's nothing link play time.
    You and Jason are such incredible parents, I love watching how loving you both are together.

    Big puffy heart you friend!

    ReplyDelete
  13. surfing! you ARE the coolest.

    we will not be surfing. i am afraid of water and sharks and water.

    rollerskating. we could go rollerskating. no water, no sharks. just goofy music, the hokey pokey, and couple skating.

    ReplyDelete
  14. You are a rock star. We like to eat.

    ReplyDelete
  15. I enjoy your perspective and the way the little positive things are big things and the little negative things are remain small. You are a optimist too. I like that. Keep up the great stories!

    Pulling the book off Kindle.

    HopeMakesItBetter.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  16. Love your good reminders... and you know I love that book! Still think you're awfully cool to be out there surfing. Way to represent!

    ReplyDelete
  17. I can totally relate. My husband had always had motorcycles growing up but got rid of them when we had our first child (30 years ago) 6 years ago - and I was 44 years old - I took a class and learned how to drive my own. My husband bought me a bike (small) and I worked up until I could handle a bigger one. I am now the proud owner of a Honda VTX1800 - one of the big boys! And do I love to ride! I only ride with my husband...it's something we love to do together. Very relaxing, takes away our stress and makes us feel young. :) Did you also know that "playing together" is one of the 5 needs of a man - according to the book by Willard Harley? An oldie but good read. :)

    ReplyDelete

I love sunshine, happy people, and the power to delete. Sparkles! Rainbows! Unicorns!