Being a grown-up means constantly adjusting, learning, growing, and changing.
Being a parent means all of those things LIKE CRAZY.
We had come upon a season in which previous punishments and rewards were becoming less and less effective. We were frustrated. Our kids were frustrated.
Something new had to come and shake it up.
Good deeds, obedience, listening, loving each other, helpfulness... Marbles in.
Spicyness, disobedience, fighting, arguing... Marbles out.
The reward for a full jar?
A date day that they would get to plan with mom & dad.
Not toys. We have enough toys. We wanted them to earn something that they wouldn't get tired of in a few minutes. We wanted them to earn special time. Where we could be with them, celebrate them, invest into them, play with them.
They decided when their jars were halfway full, that they wanted to have their date together.
Awwwwww. They didn't have to. They wanted to.
We have been brainwashing them from day one that they are best friends. It's working. Yessss.
They chose a day at a local mini-golf/ go-karts/ janky rides/ arcade place. With Wahoo's for lunch. It's always Wahoo's. Always. I'm not complaining (hello Diet Pepsi fountain.)
Gumballs for dessert?
Why of course.
You earned it.
It was such a great day.
Time to fill another jar.