It is one of the most important things that I wish to impart to them.
Being kind, sweet, caring, loyal.
I want them consciously looking for someone sitting alone at the lunch tables. For someone needing a friend to play with at the playground.
I want their lives to be marked by these things. I want them to notice the hurting and lonely around them. I want their hearts to break to the point that they will do anything to draw those on the fringe in. Regardless of what their peers might do or say.
I will say this phrase one hundred billion times if I need to. Because that is the kind of hearts that I want to see in my girls. Those are the kind of qualities that will carry them from childhood, on to high school and then to adulthood.
The culture of "mean girls" does not start in the teen years.
I don't know if it is an innate tendency of jealousy or competitiveness, or a product of society.
What I do know, is that attitude starts much, much, much too young.
Honestly, that is devastating to me. Knowing that I am raising three girls in a world that often pushes against good. Against right.
So if a few words from my mouth each day, accompanied by a big hug, and hard fought eye contact, means that there are three less mean girls in the world, I can consider my toil worthwhile.